Conflict Pattern Quiz (Free 5-Minute Assessment)
Conflict Pattern Quiz (Free 5-Minute Assessment)
Meta Description: Take the free conflict pattern quiz and discover which of the 4 patterns is sabotaging your relationships. Get your personalized Mirror Map in 5 minutes.
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You keep having the same fights. The same patterns. The same breakdowns.
And you don't know why.
Here's the truth: You're running one of four conflict patterns.
And until you know which one, you'll keep sabotaging your relationships without even realizing it.
What Is a Conflict Pattern?
A conflict pattern is an invisible loop that hijacks your brain in the first 7 seconds of a conversation.
It's not about what you say. It's about what your nervous system does before you even have a chance to think.
There are 4 conflict patterns:
1. The Defender
You get defensive the moment you feel criticized. Your chest tightens. Your face gets hot. And before you know it, you're building a case for why you're right.
2. The Controller
You need to manage every detail of the conversation. You interrupt. You redirect. You can't let go until everything is "handled."
3. The Pleaser
You agree to everything just to end the fight. You say "yes" when you mean "no." And later, you resent it.
4. The Shutdown Artist
You go emotionally offline. Your brain goes foggy. Your body goes numb. And you disappear—even when you're still in the room.
Which one sounds like you?
Why You Need to Know Your Pattern
You can't interrupt a pattern you can't see.
And the fastest way to see your pattern is to take the quiz.
Here's what you'll get:
Your Personalized Mirror Map
A detailed breakdown of YOUR conflict pattern, including:
✅ Your specific triggers - What activates your pattern
✅ Your body signals - How to catch it before it takes over
✅ Your conflict loop - How your pattern sabotages your relationships
✅ Your pattern interrupt scripts - Exactly what to say when you feel it happening
This is the map that shows you the way out.
How the Quiz Works
Step 1: Answer 12 Simple Questions (5 Minutes)
You'll answer questions about how you respond during conflict. There are no right or wrong answers—just honest ones.
Step 2: Get Your Pattern
You'll instantly discover which of the 4 patterns is yours.
Step 3: Get Your Mirror Map
You'll receive a personalized breakdown of your pattern, including your triggers, body signals, and pattern interrupt scripts.
What People Are Saying
"I took the quiz and immediately saw myself. I'm a Defender. And once I knew that, I could finally catch it before it took over."
— Sarah M.
"This quiz changed everything. I always thought my husband was the problem. Turns out, we were both running patterns."
— David R.
"I've been to therapy for years. This 5-minute quiz gave me more clarity than 6 months of sessions."
— Jennifer L.
Frequently Asked Questions
Is the quiz really free?
Yes. The quiz is 100% free. No credit card required.
How long does it take?
5 minutes. 12 questions. Instant results.
What if I don't like my results?
Your pattern isn't who you are. It's just what you're running. And once you see it, you can change it.
Do I need to sign up?
Yes. We'll ask for your email so we can send you your personalized Mirror Map. (We'll also send you the free guide "The Hidden Pattern That's Been Running Your Life.")
What if I'm not sure which pattern is mine?
The quiz will tell you. And if you're still not sure, your Mirror Map will give you examples so you can see it clearly.
Ready to See Your Pattern?
You've been running this pattern for years. Maybe your whole life.
But today, you get to see it.
And once you see it, you can stop it.
What Happens After You Take the Quiz?
Immediate Results
You'll instantly see which of the 4 patterns is yours.
Your Mirror Map
You'll get a detailed breakdown of your pattern, including triggers, body signals, and interrupt scripts.
The Free Guide
You'll receive "The Hidden Pattern That's Been Running Your Life (And How to Break Free in 30 Days)" via email.
Optional: Go Deeper
If you want to go deeper, you can get the full Mirror Map ($17) with personalized scripts for all 4 patterns. But the quiz and basic results are completely free.
A Final Word
You are not broken. The gold was always there. You just needed to see it.
God already gave you the capacity to love, connect, and communicate clearly. Your pattern has just been blocking your access to those gifts. This journey isn't about God giving you something new—it's about clearing the pattern so you can SEE and USE what's already there.
When you do that, everything changes. Not because you forced it. But because you're no longer the same person.
Your epiphany is waiting.
Related Posts:
- I Keep Having the Same Fight With My Husband
- Why Do I Get Defensive When My Partner Talks to Me
- How to Stop Being Defensive in Arguments
—Matthew Glosenger
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