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The Person Next to You EXISTS

The fact that you are in an adversarial relationship doesn't make them LESS THAN you. They are a separate person with their own experiences, their own pain, and their own truth. Different doesn't mean wrong—and being right doesn't make you better.

You're Definitely WRONG

It doesn't matter that you are right on the topic. If the relationship is strained or failing, you are 100% wrong. Take note that, if the one you're fighting with is reading this message, I will not change it to say "The other person is wrong." They are getting the same message because they are ALSO wrong.

It's OK That They're Not Where You Think They Should Be

Even if you are already "there" (and you're not, because no one is perfect, even you). People grow at their own pace. Your job is not to drag them to your level. Your job is to meet them where they are with compassion and understanding.

The Only Person You Can Change is Yourself

But once you do that, the entire world around you changes, making the world you both live in a little easier to manage. This is not a platitude. This is the most powerful truth you will ever learn. When you change, everything changes.

And here's the secret: God already equipped you with everything you need. The problem isn't that you're missing tools—it's that your pattern is blocking your access to them. When you clear the pattern, you'll see what's been there all along. And once you see it clearly, you'll naturally want MORE. That's when God adds what you weren't blessed with at the start.