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December 24, 2025

Why You Can't Change Anyone But Yourself (And Why That's Good News)

You've tried everything. You've explained your position calmly. You've raised your voice. You've given them the silent treatment. You've sent them articles, shared quotes, even suggested therapy. And ...

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December 24, 2025

The One Question That Will Transform Every Relationship You Have

Most relationship advice focuses on communication techniques. Active listening. "I" statements. Conflict resolution strategies. And while those tools can be helpful, they miss the fundamental issue....

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December 24, 2025

I Keep Having the Same Fight With My Partner: Here's Why (And How to Stop)

You know the fight. The one that starts with a small comment and escalates into the same argument you've had a hundred times before. The words change, but the pattern doesn't. The trigger is predictab...

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December 24, 2025

How to Forgive Someone Who Doesn't Deserve It (And Why You Should)

They hurt you. They betrayed you. They broke something that can't be fixed. And they're not sorry....

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December 24, 2025

If You Know It's D Work, You Know What A Work Is: A Father's Lesson on Personal Responsibility

Years ago, my stepdaughter came home with a writing assignment. As the parent, I was supposed to grade it....

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January 5, 2026

How to Stop Being Defensive in Arguments (Even When You're Right)

Discover why you get defensive in arguments and the 3-step pattern interrupt that stops it before it takes over.

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January 5, 2026

Why You Shut Down During Conflict (And How to Stay Present)

Learn why your brain goes offline during arguments and the 3-step method to stay present instead of disappearing.

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January 5, 2026

The 3 Body Signals That Reveal Your Pattern Is About to Take Over

Your body knows before your mind does. Learn to catch these signals and interrupt your pattern in 7 seconds.

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January 5, 2026

What to Say When You Feel Attacked (Pattern Interrupt Scripts)

Get the exact words to say when you feel attacked in an argument. Pattern interrupt scripts for all 4 conflict patterns.

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January 5, 2026

How to Forgive Someone Who Won't Apologize (And Why You Need To)

Learn how to forgive someone who won't apologize—not for them, but for you. Includes the reframe that changes everything.

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January 5, 2026

I Keep Having the Same Fight With My Husband

You're not crazy. You're running a conflict pattern. Discover which of the 4 patterns is sabotaging your marriage and learn how to stop it in 7 seconds.

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January 5, 2026

Why Do I Get Defensive When My Partner Talks to Me?

Discover why you get defensive the moment your partner speaks—and the 3 body signals that reveal your Defender pattern is about to take over.

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January 5, 2026

Conflict Pattern Quiz (Free 5-Minute Assessment)

Take the free conflict pattern quiz and discover which of the 4 patterns is sabotaging your relationships. Get your personalized Mirror Map in 5 minutes.

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January 5, 2026

How Long Does It Take to Break a Conflict Pattern?

Can you really change your conflict pattern in 30 days? Here's the truth about how long it takes—and the 30-day framework that makes it possible.

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